Hmm I'm certainly guilty of this and it's so true that the wedding industry sells a perfect vision of what weddings should be like. If that vision is to be believed everyone who gets married is young and pretty and thin and, aside from a few exceptions, white and heterosexual. There is very little diversity unless you look outside of the mainstream.
I love the fact that there is a wealth of inspiration available to help you to have a day that's unique to you. I hate the fact that it's so easy to get sucked into wanting to present a perfectly orchestrated, aesthetically pleasing spectacle.
There are wedding blogs and wedding magazines and wedding directories with lists upon lists of amazing recommended suppliers to choose from, lists of things you should be doing, lists of things to add to the lists that you made to keep a track of all of your lists.
When you start planning your wedding you'll also start to realise that people will try to sell you things you never even knew you needed. And the cliché that things can cost more when the supplier finds out it's a wedding isn't so much of a urban legend when you get a quote for a 1.5M wedding food.
"What's your THEME" people cry? "Have you set a date yet?" they wail, even though you've only been engaged for three hours. It's no wonder that we become bogged down in everything being perfect.
The perfect dress - show me a bride that hasn't had a wobble about their dress and I'll show you a bride who is having a naturist wedding.
Perfect décor - at a wedding I photographed last year the bride left her reception to rearrange all of the tables because she wasn't happy with them. That really upset me as she should have been enjoying her wedding not worrying about how the flowers were arranged.
Perfect weather: Unless you get married at certain times of the year, which sometimes is not even guaranteed!
Perfect food - Stress about caterers not keeping enough food back. Not been enough? Or your guest aren't well fed?
There are so many variables and things that can go 'wrong' that it's no wonder people find the wedding day and planning process stressful, but unless something prevents your actual ceremony from taking place you really do need go with the flow and tell yourself that whatever happens on the day the most important thing is that you got married.
You will save yourself a whole heap of wedding day stress by letting go. Turn up, get married, have a party. Don't worry about the details or the politics. Don't stress about things running on time because they never do. Ever.
If you accept the fact that no wedding is perfect then you will have the perfect wedding day.
source: couplesandco
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